When your BFF is your voice of reason and takes you to the beach to walk it off! Deb has a special place in her heart for Rob. She has always seen through his BS and into the softness inside. They even share a birthday and every year R exclaims “What?? It’s your bday too?”
I remember shortly after our second was born, we left the boys with Rob’s sister and rushed off to a fancy schmancy hotel for a night of adulting! Fine dining and passion were on the menu and we thought we would just take a wee nap before commencing. We woke up the next morning!!! It …
One potato, two potato, three potato, four! There is no arguing / discussing with Alzheimer’s. If the potatoes are on the bar top then they must belong there. What preceded that was a tantrum triggered by a helping hand misconstrued as a “threat”? It’s not easy to understand his reality but we try not to …
This is the look of a man who has taken his wife to the brink of madness and then reeled her back in! Today R woke up super suspicious and it went downhill from there. I decided to take him on a walk with my aunt who drove up from Dana point since I …
A man with a plan? Yesterday was a tough one. R was extra, super squirrelly and unable to settle to any task. Even @allieay6 Allie and little Isla could not deter him from his mission to monitor his muse. (that’s me) Finally it was time to go to Jake’s birthday party but not before he consulted …
Read this today and it really resonated… When someone dies, the first thing to do is nothing. Don’t run out and call the nurse. Don’t pick up the phone. Take a deep breath and be present to the magnitude of the moment. There’s a grace to being at the bedside of someone you …
When the boys were 2-1/2 and 6 months I remember going to the grocery store; Jake was in his car seat and Ben standing in the cart. It was immediately apparent that this was not going to go smoothly. Ben wanted to walk and Jake was getting cranky. A South African lady about my mom’s …
Choose happy! Today I got signed up to be an “in home support services” caregiver. A social worker will come out and evaluate how many hours are spent caregiving so I can get some help from the state. This will ease the financial burden for sure which is a huge part of this Alzheimer’s conundrum. …
I’ve been feeling somewhat disassociated as some kind of defense mechanism I guess as hints of stage 7, the finale, manifest
Subliminal Messages Subliminal messages are words or images presented below our conscious awareness. When sending such a message to your wife returning from yoga, she might think that you were off to work. (The pad folio cunningly tucked under the arm) Of course, you would not go to work in sneakers so her next thought …